Boundaries and Spiritual Readiness – Lessons from the Ten Virgins

Boundaries and Spiritual Readiness – Lessons from the Ten Virgins

The parable of the Ten Virgins not only teaches us about spiritual readiness but also highlights an often-overlooked aspect of faith: setting healthy boundaries to protect our connection with God.

Reflection 

When I was younger, I saw the wise virgins’ refusal to share their oil as unkind and selfish. It didn’t align with what I had been taught about helping others and showing compassion. But as I matured in my faith, I realized this story wasn’t about selfishness—it was about wisdom and discernment.

The wise virgins understood that their oil (representing their relationship with the Holy Spirit) was something they couldn’t give away without jeopardizing their own readiness for Christ’s return. This realization hit me hard because I had spent much of my life giving too much of myself to others—often at the expense of my own spiritual health.

I came to understand that unresolved childhood trauma had shaped my tendency to overgive. My desire to be liked, loved, or accepted by others often led me to compromise my boundaries and ignore my own needs. This left me spiritually drained and disconnected from God.

Bible Verse

“But while they went to buy [oil], the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the wedding; and the door was shut.” - Matthew 25:10

This verse underscores a hard truth: there are consequences for not being spiritually prepared. The foolish virgins missed out on the wedding feast because they failed to prioritize their relationship with God.

Call to Action

If you’ve struggled with setting boundaries or feel spiritually depleted, take steps today to protect your “oil” (your connection with God):

Reflect on Your Boundaries: Are you giving too much of yourself to people or situations that drain you spiritually? Learn to say no when necessary so you can prioritize your relationship with God.

Seek Healing: If unresolved trauma is affecting your ability to connect with God or others, seek help through prayer, counseling, or trusted support systems. Healing is essential for restoring your spiritual health.

Stay Connected: Make time for prayer, worship, and studying Scripture so you can keep your lamp filled with oil and stay ready for Christ’s return.

Things To Remember

Healthy Boundaries Protect Your Oil: Your relationship with God should never be compromised by toxic relationships or unhealthy patterns of behavior.

Healing Brings Restoration: Addressing past wounds allows you to reconnect with God and live an abundant life filled with His peace and joy.

Spiritual Readiness Requires Effort: Don’t take your faith for granted—actively nurture your connection with God so you’re prepared when He comes.

By understanding both spiritual preparedness and healthy boundaries, we can live lives that honor God while protecting our connection with Him. Let’s strive to be like the wise virgins—ready, confident, and filled with His Spirit!